No more resolutions, but a focus

It’s that time of year again when many of us make new year's resolutions only to break them a couple of weeks later. I’ve been thinking a lot about what makes us reach our goals. I have a lot I want to accomplish this year, but honestly— I don’t believe in resolutions anymore. Those feelings of disappointment and guilt when you don’t reach a goal can be paralyzing and overwhelming. Rather than making a resolution, I’m setting a “focus” for my year instead.

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How to make human connections

One thing you have to learn in both college and in your first job is how to make human connections. Why? Well, first off all it would be pretty boring and lonely if you didn’t connect with your co-workers. Feeling connected to the people around you and at your job provides an increased feeling of belonging, purpose, happiness, self-worth and confidence, and that is critical for our wellbeing.

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However bad the news seems there is always something good in there

I’ve had many challenges in my life as you know. I lost grandma six years ago. Due to Visa applications challenges, II was separated from your dad for an entire year after we got married. I've had ongoing challenges in my career where I’ve had to work extra hard as a woman and immigrant, I’m dealing with different health issues etc. There have been many times when I’ve been close to giving up, and wanted to throw in the towel. But I didn’t. Why? Because I truly believe that there is a reason for everything that happens to us.

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Swedish Mys

Dear Daughter,

You have grown up with Swedish Mys in our home, but I just realized that I’ve never explained the concept to you. I also just realized that it’s challenging to explain the concept. Mys is a feeling. I’m going to do my best to describe and document it here, so that you can practice it and know how to implement the same lifestyle at college and in your future home.

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